You’re starving yourself. You’re not being honest about what you need or who you are or what you’re not getting. We know that we need a balanced diet in the physical world. On our plates. But spiritually, we also need balance. And if you’re not getting everything you need spiritually, it’s your spirit that’s malnourished.
You can’t please everyone and you’ll never be perfect to everybody. If that’s your plan, you’re going to fail. And I really hope it isn’t breaking your heart to hear this. I hope it liberates you. I hope it helps you find comfort. I hope it saves you from a life of harsh internal talk
I was watching Queen Sugar a few weeks ago. Aunt Vi was telling Nova about a conversation Nova’s parents had, many years ago, to help Nova understand her parents’ relationship. Aunt Vi recounted that one parent said to the other, “I’m in love with the person hiding inside of you and I don’t want to
Society starts to tell us who we should be very, very early in life. We’re taught norms and exposed to people’s expectations before we even start school. We learn what kinds of foods people expect us to eat (and what foods we should expect other people to eat) in our homes and at daycare. We